A Little Wednesday Wisdom

When I first saw this fact, I was pretty blown away. I mean those of us with sight, spend most of our time frowning and we get to see so many beautiful things in front us. We frown at traffic, we frown at crowds, we frown if someone honks their horn. We frown about every damn thing.  I just couldn’t get it out of my head that a blind person sees none of this and manages to smile, so what’s our excuse. Just think about it hell we have sight for one, I felt pretty shameful after reading this and will think pretty hard about the next time I fix my face to frown. Hmmm, I hope this fact was helpful and that you manage to get a smile or two in today. Have a great Wednesday….

Ms. Fran

“The world is like a mirror, if you face it smiling, it smiles right back at you”

“SMILE, let everyone know today, you’re a lot stronger than you were yesterday.”


Speak Positivity Over Your Life

Happy Wednesday….this morning affirmations are a few I have been telling myself lately, use these or come up with your own. If you don’t feel postive or good about yourself, hell who will?? Taking care of yourself isn’t ‘Selfish’! Speak over yourself, Encourage yourself! Have a Wonderful Wednesday!!

Ms. Fran

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Day: 8 A Mom is Sentence Too

8 days down, hundreds to go! Spoke with him today, he finally moved to his new room with the black guys. Apparently in that prison camp you have to stick with your own 🙄Anyway, he sounded a little more upbeat today! He finds out tomorrow when his release date will be, I hope it’s sooner rather than later. I faced time my sweet grand baby today, who is looking more like him everyday. My sons girlfriend said, the baby and his sister have been acting kind of funny. The little girl is acting out, using the restroom in corners and peeing on her toys. I think she was so use to having a male figure around and is trying to express her little feelings. I know she misses him just like we do. My son is a really good dude who made a really bad decision, but you live and you learn. So I’m off to bed, feeling pretty good tonight about him. I really believe God has his arms around him! Also did I mention I’ve been sober for 8 whole days😃🙌🏾! Chat soon…..

Ms. Fran


It is tough…

It is tough to be a woman, tougher to be a mother but toughest to be a mother of ‘black’ child. This is because the perception of people changes when they see someone who is black and we have all the instances to prove that injustice do happen with so called ‘black’ people. Mother shatters when she sees her child in unrelenting pain and trauma. It is not easy to see your dearest one go through a situation of anguish and pain rather than a life full of tranquillity and peace!

Ms. Fran

Saturday Morning Vibes

So I spent yesterday after work in bed, you know like I use to when I was severely depressed. I didn’t much care for that shit at all, I didn’t get anything done. Feeling so lost about my son, but staying in bed isn’t going to change a damn thing. “Radical Acceptance” this is what I learned in therapy. I can’t change his situation, so I must deal with it. Yes, it’s going to be hard, but sitting around the house is not the answer. So I’m out and about this morning, shopping for my wedding anniversary tomorrow. Think I’ll have me a couple of mimosas at brunch and shop till I drop!! I’m not ending my year sad and depressed. Wishing you all a great last Saturday of this year….chat soon!!!

Ms. Fran

Feeling Lost!

As I look forward to the New Year, I also wish I could turn back time. I wish my little boy was still little, I wish he still needed me, I wish I could take his place in that prison cell. As the days pass away, I can’t help but feel so lost. He’s still my baby and there’s nothing I can do for him now. I’m trying to be strong, glad he can’t see my eyes now.

Ms. Fran

Your Depression isn’t My Depression!!!

 Let me repeat that again, “Your Depression isn’t my damn Depression”!!! Ok, so I have this friend who is beautiful, single, independent, and a great mom. I like her a lot and try my best to be there for her, if only to listen to her cry or talk. I always want to be there for any friend, because they have all been there for me. Now, this shit is getting out of hand….she has been walking around since Monday saying, “she’s depressed”. Now don’t get me wrong, I totally understand that every now and then some people will experience depression. But… to come to me and say that shit pisses me the fuck off. She actually had the nerve to say to me, “I’m coming to you, because you’ve been depressed before”. “Been depressed before”????? Hell I’m still depressed, the fucking nerve of you???? Shit I wish I had her depression, you know the kind that goes away after you eat a tub of ice cream, or screw some random guy, or the kind that goes away after shopping. I mean how stupid can one be?? My depression isn’t your depression, it’s like you still don’t fucking get it at all. I have worked hard to start recovering, but it doesn’t make my illness any less. Being depressed about some damn relationship is just crazy as hell to me, hell it’s to many men in the damn world. Try changing the color of the man you want, or try a woman, lol! Hell just don’t compare my damn depression to yours. This gets me so damn mad, but I’m going to calm down and gift her my ebook for Christmas, lol! I just don’t want people to continue mixing the depressions up, I think it’s rude and self-serving. There are too many of us out here dying, from suffering so bad. Depression isn’t the same as feeling blue, so get over yourself, put on makeup and go out and meet new man. Thanks I’m done, now back to your regular scheduled programming…..chat soon.

Ms. Fran

From Brokeness to Wholeness

As I’ve told you all, I have join this new mentoring group Diamonds and Pearls. I’ve been learning so much and thought I’d share some more of our discussions: 

From Brokeness to Wholeness

Our life is full of brokeness- broken relationships, broken promises, broken expectations. How can we live with that without becoming bitter and resentful except by returning again and again to God’s faithful presence in our lives. – Henri Nouwen

Wholeness does not mean perfection: it means embracing brokeness as an integral part of life. -Parker J. Palmer

Discussion Questions

  1. What does brokeness mean to you?
  2. Share what your brokeness looks and feels like.
  3. Brokeness is a place where you need to be to start over; to be filled; to decrease; to be mended

This discussion was so great and once I again I found out so much about myself. It also felt good to be able to share how you feel in a judgement free zone. So take down these questions and try writing them down in a journey and come back to them later. Chat soon…

Ms. Fran😊

30 Days of Gratitude: Day 2

Omg is it Friday yet??? My body is just dragging along, so I would like to say that I’m so grateful today for the person who invented coffee. Yes!!!! Coffee, now I’m not that big on coffee, I just started drinking it, but my gosh it does something to me. I woke up this morning moving slow like a turtle, then I poured a cup of coffee and BOOM!!! I was ready to conquer the day. lol so that’s what I’m thankful for today. Now, on yesterday I wrote down the 5 things I was grateful for so here we go:

  1. So thankful for my struggles
  2. Thankful for my meds
  3. Thankful for my therapist
  4. Thankful to be smiling again
  5. And last but least, thankful for music

These may seem kind of crazy to some of you, but for those of you who have been reading my blog know my struggle. I had to go through the bad stuff to come out of it on top. With the help of the right meds that regulate my brain, and the therapist who cares enough to actually listen. The first lady was just horrible, and a little judgemental. Aww, to be smiling again…it really feels good to see my smile in the mirror now. For a long time all I could see was this sad face with baggy blood-shot red eyes staring back at me. No hope in my eyes, all lost and gone. Lifeless eyes, feeling unworthy and ugly. No longer do I look that way, and lastly I’m so thankful for music. Music that keeps me dancing around the house and singing without even noticing it. I’m having a little karaoke party to myself, and my pup is the audience. lol!! This is why I love this quote, because I hoped for once to be happy again. Things are not perfect, but lord knows they are better than they use to be. I don’t desire much, just for me to learn how to count my blessings during the storm. This list may seem kind of crazy, but it was all I prayed for. On that note, hope you all were thinking of some things to be grateful in your day. No matter what it is, be grateful because someone is wishing for a lot more. Chat soon….

Ms. Fran

“My life isn’t perfect, but I’m THANKFUL for everything I have”- Daveswordsofwisdom

“Trade your expectation for appreciation and the world changes instantly”- Tony Robbins

Psalms: 100:4 “Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name!”


30 Days of Gratitude… Day 1

November is upon us, which means the holidays are right around the corner. With that being said, instead of waiting for Thanksgiving to be ‘thankful’, I have decided to figure out something to be ‘thankful’ for the rest of the month. I have decided that maybe seeing the good things in my life, might out weigh the bad. I have come so far these last months, and really feel ‘thankful’ God hasn’t given up on me. The more we focus on what’s right in our life, the better we will feel. I think if we are grateful for those good days, then the bad ones should receive a little love. I mean if it wasn’t for the bad days, I wouldn’t be able to overcome shit in life. My life wasn’t as bad as I thought, but the way I reacted to those things made it seem worse. I’m learning so much lately, and can’t say enough how glad I am that God was on my side. So what are you all ‘thankful’ for? despite the hard days, is there one thing in a day that you can say, “ok I’m thankful for that”. Hell I don’t care if it’s,” hey I showered today”….I know all to well what life is like when depression takes over your mind. So I will start off day one by: writing 5 things I’m ‘thankful’ for today and will share them with you all later in another post. I would love to hear from you all as well. Thanksgiving isn’t the only time to be ‘thankful’….chat soon.

“Give thanks for all of the opportunities that even our struggles bring”-Unvieled Wife

Ms. Fran